Welcome
Hi there! My name is Randy and this is where I write about life, growth, and intimacy — basically all the things I should have figured out by now.
Three focal points on life from one very human voice.

Let me set the scene for you. A gleaming gold statue of Donald Trump — fist raised to the heavens, gold suit gleaming in the…
I am turning 58 next Thursday, and I have decided I want abs. Not metaphorical abs. Not “abs are made in the…
Conservative Evangelical Christianity taught me that you could identify a true Christian by their fruit. It’s right there in Galatians 5:22-23 —…
Last week I sat down with my friend Joe Brummer for his podcast, and we talked. Not just about the exgay chapter…
My weekly attempt to make sense of the world so I can fight for life instead of being run over by it.
A midweek dispatch from the part of me that wanders off emotionally and sends back cryptic little postcards.
Where I check in on my personal growth and discover, yet again, that I don’t have to have “issues” to deal with.
Subscribe for a weekly mix of cultural side-eye, emotional spelunking, personal growth attempts, and the occasional chaotic deep-dive into intimacy and desire.