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Hi there! My name is Randy and this is where I write about life, growth, and intimacy — basically all the things I should have figured out by now.
Three focal points on life from one very human voice.

Alex: It’s Time To Thrive — and this week the site is sitting with some genuinely hard material, the kind that doesn’t resolve neatly and…
Let me be clear before I write another word: what Alan Chambers allegedly did is reprehensible. Full stop. No asterisk. A 14-year-old…
I know I am supposed to be on a blogging break. But, this tragedy happened. I wanted to write about Alan’s arrest…
Today is my birthday. I am 58 years old. I’m going to let that sit there without apology, because 58 looks a…
My weekly attempt to make sense of the world so I can fight for life instead of being run over by it.
A midweek dispatch from the part of me that wanders off emotionally and sends back cryptic little postcards.
Where I check in on my personal growth and discover, yet again, that I don’t have to have “issues” to deal with.
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