Welcome
Life, Growth, and Intimacy
Hi there! My name is Randy and this is where I write about life, growth, and intimacy — basically all the things I should have figured out by now.
Four focal points on life from one very human voice.
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What Happened to All My Former Selves?
From an invisible abused child to a public ex-gay advocate and, finally, a man learning to live honestly, I look back at the many Randys…
Recent Writing
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We Were Trapped in the Mirror Too
A former Exodus leader reflects on the pressure to become a living testimony—and what happens when honesty threatens the story.
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Randemption
Revisiting the gay bars of my youth, reclaiming one terrible memory, and discovering that time turns leather bars into luxury furniture stores.
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When the Pastor Becomes Untouchable
Death of a Pastor’s Wife tells an extreme story, but the church hierarchy surrounding it—and the misuse of spiritual authority—is disturbingly ordinary.
Four blog series on life from one very human voice…
Mugwump Ramblings
My weekly attempt to make sense of the world so I can fight for life instead of being run over by it.
Thrive
Where I check in on my personal growth and discover, yet again, that I don’t have to have “issues” to deal with.
Wayfinder
A midweek dispatch from the part of me that wanders off emotionally and sends back cryptic little postcards.
After Hours
Some conversations don’t happen in the middle of the day. They happen after the dishes are done, the lights are low, and everyone has stopped pretending they have it all figured out.
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