A Happy Dandy Marriage Is Quite A Trip! And A Dream Come True
A Happy Dandy Marriage Is Quite A Trip! And A Dream Come True
And sometimes it has a pretty and blurred out background...
Mirrors and camera lenses are known as “Scobey Traps.” Whenever any of us Scobeys (all generations) crosses paths with a mirror or video recording device, we freeze and go into our particular poses and rituals at that moment. I usually end up fixing my hair. For Dan, it is flexing.
I mean, if you looked like he does, you probably would, too!
My husband is a fine specimen of a silver fox! He needs those big ‘ol strong arms and legs for many reasons. I give him quite a workout…lol
::: Fanning myself ::: So, moving along :::
If we are friends on social media, you may have seen me do a photoshoot for the upcoming memoir WHY this past week. Given the opportunity, Dan and I had some taken of us together. It was fun and also an excellent moment to have with each other.
I love this man with my whole being.
He makes me laugh; he is there when I don’t know what to do. He is my anchor amid turbulent seas and my other half to enjoy life fully. In a crisis (and we have had a few over our 7+ years together), we drop everything to care for each other just like any partners in love would. We share the same faith (mainly as Universalist Christians) and how that manifests in our lives.
Dan makes our house a home. And it is the only one who can cook without a microwave.
I am going to stop there because it would just be a banal exercise of restating a million things you have already heard on the Hallmark channel or some schmoozy “I love you…“ Valentine’s Day card. I will not even restate the disclaimers of it not always being fun and perfect.
But this is a dream come true. I love our marriage and family, including our fur babies.
Back in the day, I let a mentor (of a sort) convince me that we should never use the word “happy.” We should use the word “joy” for extraordinary moments. Happy was made to mean something boastful, so not using the word “happy” was a false act of humility…
F*ck that. #womp womp
I am content and have joyful moments, but right now, I am a happy husband, and all this is rooted in is…
Love.
Man, and I am so happy for you. I've followed you for some time, reading your stories and the "movie", from the beginning of your exodus from Exodus. For us Christians, who were shown from others that our current lives would lead to a future of sulfuric embers burning around us, it is a long and rocky trip to get to where you and I are now. Although our lives are turning out quite differently, it is still a profound journey. To be honest, there is a tinge of jealousy - and we aren't supposed to have that emotion, either - but true enough - my heart desires to share my life with someone special as you have found with Dan. Yet, even if that special guy never comes along for me, I know that simply living my life in a genuine and authentic way has brought peace that I had never known prior to my coming out and facing the truth - thank you, Randy - for your role in that, and even though we have never met or talked - your life, and your trip through it, is an inspiration.
Love love love this. Love that you are happy and sharing your story. Can hardly wait for the book.