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Sexplorer–"Do you know what your name means in England?"

Yes, I do. And I live up to that "meaning" all the time. Being free to be Randy/randy has been a looooong journey.

Feb 15

Ask It Basket– Glitter, Grit, and Getting Out

Why My Story Is Healing, Not a Hustle

Feb 12 • Randy Scobey

Sexplorer–"What is one of the most embarrassing moments in your sexploration so far?"

Let’s just say it involved a particular medication lasting much longer than four hours and a hilarious ER doctor.

Feb 8

How It's Going: Seven Years Later

From dreamy beginnings to shared snacks and Real Housewives marathons.

Feb 6

Weird Is Where I Belong

A reflection on childhood scars, bonus parenthood, and finally feeling right in the “wrong” place.

Feb 5 • Randy Scobey

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Sexplorer–Is Monogamy A Unrealistic Standard?

Jan 19

Life After "Pray Away"

Oct 30, 2022 • Randy Scobey

Going From 24 Years Of Celibacy To Being Sexually Active (and really liking it) Gay Man

Oct 26, 2025

Sexplorer Saturday–Self & Confidence

Nov 8, 2025

Recent posts

The Journey Is The Reward

The saying, “The journey is the reward,” has been tumbling around in my brain.

Jan 28 • Randy Scobey

I sat down today ready to write a *Sexplorer* post, but that’s impossible right now — the news is too loud, too consuming, too real.

Jan 25 • Randy Scobey

Of Volkswagens & Men in Kilts

And if they are men in kilts driving a “Paprika Red” EOS, even better!

Jan 21 • Randy Scobey

Sexplorer–Is Monogamy A Unrealistic Standard?

For some it is unrealistic. But like my friend Allen says, "Whatever people decide to do, or don't do, in their bedroom is non of anyone else's da…

Jan 19

Ask It Basket–"Can we pray for you?"

I was hanging out with Danielle Apple and her husband on the Sanford Riverwalk and right in the middle of our discussion on spirituality, the…

Dec 28, 2025 • Randy Scobey

A Christmas Weekend Post

blah blah blah and then Daniel Craig said to me, "Stop it!!!", blah blah blah

Dec 28, 2025 • Randy Scobey

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Mugwump Ramblings

A mugwump is someone that withdraws his or her support from a political group or organization : a regular member who bolts a party and adopts an independent position

Posts of a more intimate nature concerning a gay man learning about sex after 24 years of celibacy.

Ask me anything, nothing is off the table.

Thrive

Think ping pong ball in a clothes dryer—that’s my life. Somewhere in the spin, I learned to thrive in my super-gay life. For the full messy, sparkly story, my memoir WHY: A Memoir (foreword by Anne Heche) is available on Amazon & at major bookstores.

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